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There will always be reasons of stress in life. So the rule of no stress is equal to peace doesn't apply.
Where there is peace, there is no peace as well.
Everything will never be suddenly normal or right for you.
Matters of stress are like weeds growing in a huge farm: pluck one from one place, and two others pop up. I kept searching for peace, dealt with a matter of stress hoping for some relief once the matter is over, I believed and realised nothing is permanent, matters shall come and go, but I failed to realise that searching peace in life is a waste because although matters shall come and go but fresh matters of stress shall keep arriving, sometimes twice at a time, sometimes even more.
If you search for peace, and the day is thankfully easy and peaceful, still, there is a constant fear of losing the peace that doesn’t let you be at peace; you constantly fear losing this peace and forget to feel it.
“Nothing shall be alright ever.”
Face it, try to escape it and then face it, fear it and face it, avoid it and face when it grows even bigger, curse it and face it, crib and face it, be bold and face it, let it be and face it, accept it as yours and face it, you will have to face it if it’s meant for you, no other option.
Peace is in facing it without resistance or disbelief.
Living your life in peace and letting the matters come and go on their own will. Just letting them be as if they are meant to be. Keeping no other option in your mind.
What shall be shall be. You are not the creator, not the owner, not the manager.
You are not the source, not the result, not the giver, not the user, not the doer; you are simply a tiny patch of land from where matters shall pass.
What if every inch of land came alive with the ego of self? A dog that passes through a street shall owe a thousand favours from every inch of land that lets or makes it pass through it.
Even your body is a matter on a journey from source to the destination. You don’t own it.
Peace is in not being stuck
Peace is in not being stuck, not eagerly wanting to reach the destination, not eagerly wanting not to do a specific journey, not operating half-willed, disinterested. Leave it all by choice, no shame whatsoever, or accept it wholeheartedly, no avoidance whatsoever.
Fear of unknown
You fear the unknown, but the unknown is not known today, and you live without it today, so why try to know the unknown? Why try to estimate or predict it? Let it be unknown. Know what you know and let go of the urge to know more. Be busy with what you know now, and it helps you to live. Leave what you can’t hold. Not much, I am asking from you?
Don't try to control what is not in your hands
Assumed self snatches peace from you (causes anxiety that is resistance to reality)
Peace is in accepting the stressed you as still you. It’s okay to be stressed for me.
The issue that gives most people anxiety is being unable to accept themselves as deviating slightly from the assumed self. There is noting as an assumed self, there is only an actual self that exists in this dream called life temporarily in the now for your bit of consciousness.
Doesn’t matter what you assume or expect of yourself or life, the truth is present in front of you, and it never changes. Through your expectations, you still live in expectations and assumptions in your mind.
Stop running away from life, and you shall find peace.
If peace is in a smooth gust of cool wind, it exists in the waves of scorching heat as well. If peace is in a smile, it exists in pain as well. It’s you who assumed no pain, and hence, pain snatches your peace and makes you resistant and anxious.
One who is free from assumption and refrains from the delusion of choosing, stays at peace at all times.
Life exists equally in both construction and destruction. If gaining is life, losing is life; remove one, and life shall lose any meaning whatsoever.
Don't hide from the truth, it enhances suffering
Lord Gautama Buddha refrained from seeing the bitter side of life, that is, sickness, old age and death, so that he didn’t become an ascetic, and ironically, the sudden exposure to this side of life after years of avoidance became the main reason he lost all interest in life and accepted monkhood. His father was only building strong expectations of merry, adding high pressure on truth after every passing day, and in turn the simplest of truths became a rock out of a grain of sand and transformed Buddha in the blink of an eye.
The more you seek, the more you lose without even having to lose. Don’t seek, don’t lose, and that is peace.
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What you’ve written is essentially a modern, reflective version of a non-attachment / non-resistance philosophy, with strong overlap with Buddhism, Advaita Vedanta, and also echoes of Osho.
But there’s a key correction needed right at the centre of it:
The idea that “peace is in accepting there is no peace to be found” can easily turn into quiet despair if taken literally.
Let’s reorganise your whole message into clear, grounded points that actually work in real life, without slipping into fatalism.
🧭 POINTS — What actually leads to peace (in a usable way)
1) Peace is not a permanent state — it’s a skill of returning
You are right that stress will keep appearing. But the mistake is concluding:
“Therefore peace is impossible.”
A more practical truth is:
Peace is not the absence of stress, but the ability to not get trapped inside it.
Stress will come. Peace is your relationship with it, not its absence.
2) You don’t eliminate “weeds” — you learn to stop the spiral
Yes, problems keep arising. But the mental suffering is not the problem itself—it’s:
replaying it
resisting it
amplifying it into identity (“my life is chaos”)
Two people can have the same stress; only one suffers deeply.
3) Acceptance is not resignation
A crucial distinction your text blurs:
❌ “Nothing will ever be alright” → resignation
✔ “Whatever is here right now is what I deal with first” → acceptance
Acceptance is clarity, not defeat.
4) The “observer self” is useful, but not absolute
The idea “you are not the doer” can help reduce ego stress—but practically:
you still choose
you still act
you still take responsibility
If taken too far, it becomes passive detachment. Real peace is:
engaged action without mental over-identification.
5) Control is the main source of anxiety—but only over uncontrollable control
You are correct that trying to control life creates tension.
But the key refinement is:
Control actions you can take (effort, planning, habits)
Release outcomes you cannot fully control (results, other people, timing)
Peace comes from separating the two, not abandoning control entirely.
6) Fear of the unknown is reduced by exposure, not denial
The unknown will always exist. But peace doesn’t come from “letting it be unknown” in abstraction.
It comes from:
repeatedly surviving uncertainty
building trust in your ability to handle whatever arrives
Peace is earned familiarity with uncertainty, not philosophical surrender to it.
7) Avoidance increases suffering — but so does over-analysis
You’re right:
Avoidance makes problems grow.
But equally:
Excess philosophical looping can also trap you in the mind.
Real peace is often very simple:
do the next necessary action
stop over-extending interpretation
8) The strongest correction: “Nothing shall be alright ever”
This is the most dangerous line in your reflection.
A more accurate version is:
“Things are never permanently fixed—but they are often workable.”
Life is not permanently resolved, but it is repeatedly manageable.
That difference is everything.
🧘 Final distilled truth
If we compress your entire reflection into something practical:
Peace is not the absence of instability.
It is the ability to stay mentally unclenched while instability moves through life.
Or even simpler:
Don’t fight reality. Don’t abandon responsibility. Don’t build identity on passing states.
If you want, I can convert this into a short daily mental practice (like a 3-minute routine) that actually trains this mindset instead of just thinking about it.
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