Because we grieve a part of ourselves that is lost. It really isn't about the other person. It’s about our co-dependency on them. It's like living without one of your limbs. Even if you know death is inevitable, it's the prospect of living an “unfulfilling life” that is scary.
It's because the answers to questions of dependency, survival, and happiness need to be re-written.
Grief can be a process of being overwhelmed with joy, since now you can choose to pay attention to only that about a person that you cherish, without being forced to remember the rest.
Knowing impermanence and experiencing it moment to moment is very different. If you turn inwards for all your emotional needs, instead of taking the easy way out, this need not be the case.
With every breath you are born anew. Stay centred in this (Not intellectually, actually choose it) and all your transitions will be smooth.
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