Today I lost my mom
She passed away and it was hard, I’m sitting in the tub and I can’t stop crying I have family here and it still hurts I miss my mom I feel alone I really miss her I mis you mama
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Oh sweetheart 💕 feel that pain, let it out. Try and breath. Anything you feel you need to do, do. Know that your mom is always going to with you. When you look in the mirror and she her features in yourself you get to see her in yourself. What a wonderful thing to have. My thoughts are with you, and I offer my hugs. Sending you healing light.
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If this could be any consolation, there is a TV series on Netflix called midnight gospel that revolves around spirituality, and in the last episode, which you can fast forward to, the main character deals with the soon death of his mom as she has cancer. Based on podcast, real people, maybe it could help you with your sorrow. All the best friend.
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yes! i really recommend this too. I lost my mother and that last episode did wonders for me and many other people whom have lost their mother.
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My friend recommended this show too me as well. It’s with dr. Drew.
Sending you love and light OP ❤️❤️❤️
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That’s awful. I’m a member of that shitty club too, though your pain and feelings are unique to you. If you ever want to vent or talk, shoot me a PM. You’re not alone as much as it may feel like it right now.
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Thank you all, I’m laying here now I think I’m waiting to die because this hurts and I just don’t know how I will ever walk again or breathe she was my best friend she was my protector my peace and don’t think I knew how much she was all of those things to me and now I feel like death inside of me and just a body
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My mother passed away a week ago. She was my best friend too- my soulmate. I know the pain you’re feeling. All I can say is tune in to your spiritual side, she will send you signs to know she’s with you. To love someone so much means it hurts more when you lose them. It’s not fair. But she will always be with you. If you’d like to chat please message me. I’m a week into this grief thing and I’m managing better than I was when it first happened. Sending you love and light. ❤️
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I witnessed my mother's sudden passing last year on Sunday, October 13th at 5:23am. She was my best friend, too. Nothing makes it easier. My emotional and psychological wounds still feel fresh but not as raw. I remember I got extremely ill 2 days after she passed from lack of sleep, lack of eating and general mistreatment of myself (lots of pot and even drinking even though I really hate the taste of most alcoholic beverages). I sat in the Urgent Care waiting room and thought about all the things I should have done to save her but didn't. And that's what I did for a long while; sit and wonder what I could have done to keep her longer.
I received loads of support from my brother, Reddit, friends, my boyfriend and his family and even my narc father. It was incredible how much love people gave and how selfish I felt because none of it mattered (at the time) since none of it was coming from her. But now the people that spent time with me are some of my closest friends and feel like family. I'm so grateful for that and I hope you find comfort in someone closeby, even if it is just 1 person. So important to stay somewhat social to keep your mind busy and help work through grief.
You will find your comfort in your own way. As time passes you'll remember things she said to you that will comfort you without tears and will actually make your feel confident and strong.
I'm still going through mourning myself and I apologize if any of this made you more sad. Please feel free to contact me if you would like to vent. I may be a slow respond but I will reply.
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I am so so so sorry for your loss🥺wishing for your heart to be at peace💖
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Thank you to everyone, getting the notification on my phone and seeing how much support here has made me realize how much support I have here and irl... I’m so sorry to everyone who has felt this pain also, I do feel her and believe she has given me courage to be strong along with you all... so thank you...your words helped me move thank you
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My momma has been in heaven a few weeks now. Maybe they are saying hello. Big hugs to you. This is so hard.
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i'm sorry-- that must be so hard. sending you love. even though she's no longer here, a part of her is with you. whether you believe in an afterlife or any spiritual plane, know that she is with you. having loved so strongly is ultimately a wonderful and special thing. i wish you the best.
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Im sorry,as much as you might hate to hear this over and over again,the unbearable pain will pass.Wherever she may be,that love-energy that she had for you isnt going anywhere.
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Sometimes I don't like saying the unbearable pain will pass, cuz sometimes in cases like these they don't, I talked to someone who had lost his brother that drowned, he witnessed it, he committed suicide while I was talking to him, well texting, shot himself in the foot, he was in his 20s the death happened when he was idk 10 or something, grief can sometimes turn into depression which in turn turns into suicidal tendencies, I don't think we should tell every grieving person that it's going to get better, I think while in most cases sure we should also sorta prepare them just in case, by saying that maybe it might not get better, but to try to keep moving forward or something like that.
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Yea I definitely see what you mean,but unfortunately moving foward is all we can do whether we like it or not.Grieving is nessesary and up to a certain point it's the best and only thing we can do but.But I agree that life can be brutal on us,that is a universal truth that will forever be true.All we can do is seek help from other people in this existential mess we are in.And truly listen to the experience and advice (of proffesionals, non proffesionals take with a grain of salt ofc)
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Allow yourself to grieve, it is natural to hurt. Be strong in ways you need to, but part of this is strength in grief, never feel that you must hold back. There is no formula of words to make this easier, only time and your inner strength to permit the pain, not to avoid or run from it.
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I am so very sorry!! Moms are magical, and I understand your pain. I lost my mom in '02 when I was 18. You need some time to process this loss and hurt. Seek some help, please. It will be worth it. And remember, your mom is just as upset that she had to leave you too. But even with her body gone her soul is still a part of you. Sending you lots of love and light, hugs and healing vibes. Again, I'm so sorry for your loss ❤
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Another day, I went out for some fresh air to a meadow covered with flowers.
While singing and remaining in a state of awareness, I noticed among the profusion of flowers spread out before me one particular flower waving gently on its long stem and giving out a sweet fragrance.
As it swayed from side to side, I heard this song in the rustling of its petals:
Listen to me, mountain dweller:
I don’t want to hurt your feelings,
But, in fact, you even lack awareness
Of impermanence and death,
Let alone any realization of emptiness.
For those with such awareness,
Outer phenomena all teach impermanence and death.
I, the flower, will now give you, the yogi,
A bit of helpful advice
As a flower born in a meadow,
I enjoy perfect happiness
With my brightly colored petals in full bloom.
Surrounded by an eager cloud of bees,
I dance gaily, swaying gently with the wind.
When a fine rain falls,
My petals wrap around me,
When the sun shines I open like a smile.
Right now I look well enough,
But I won’t last long,
Not at all.
Unwelcome frost will dull these vivid colors,
Till turning brown, I wither.
Later still, winds-
Violent and merciless-
Will tear me apart
Until I turn to dust.
You, hermit,
Are of the same nature.
Surrounded by a host of disciples,
You enjoy a fine complexion,
Your body of flesh and blood is full of life.
When others praise you, you dance with joy;
Right now, you look well enough.
But you won’t last long,
Not at all.
Unhealthy aging will steal away
Your healthy vigor;
Your hair will whiten
And your back will grow bent.
When touched by the merciless hands
Of illness and death
You will leave this world
For the next life,
Since you, mountain-roaming hermit,
And I, a mountain-born flower,
Are mountain friends,
I have offered you
These words of good advice.
Then the flower fell silent and remained still. In reply, I sang:
O brilliant, exquisite flower,
Your discourse on impermanence
Is wonderful indeed.
But what shall the two of us do?
Is there nothing that can be done?
The flower replied:
Among all the activities of samsara
There is not one that is lasting.
Whatever is born will die;
Whatever is joined will come apart;
Whatever is gathered will disperse;
Whatever is high will fall.
Having considered this,
I resolve not to be attached
To these lush meadows.
Even now, in the full glory of my display,
Even as my petals unfold in splendor,
You, too, while strong and fit,
Should abandon your clinging
Meditate in solitude;
Seek the pure field of freedom,
The great serenity.
-by Shabkar
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It never hurts any less. Just less often. Sending love your way.
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I've been through the same. My mother died in March of 2018 and I'm going to be honest here and say, it's going to be very hard. You will feel sadness, you'll think life is unfair you might even become angry at the world or even your mom (in my case I had times I asked why my mom had to leave) but you know what? You'll be fine, accept the feelings you have. Let no one and I repeat NO ONE tell you that anything you are feeling is invalid because is isn't. Don't allow yourself or others belittle your grief even years after this. It's your individual process.
If you feel like everything is going wrong, feel free to DM me. Im happy to share my experiences and I'm more than happy to help
Stay strong ❤️
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Trying to make sense of my mother’s death is what drove me to spiritual seeking. It’s a different world for you now too. I hope the pain of this transition will eventually yield positive effects as well. My deepest condolences.
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I'm so sorry. I don't have the right words. Sending you strength and love.
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I am so sorry for your loss! I lost my mom in December and my mother in law in 2014. It's one of the hardest times in your life to lose a parent. She will always be with you and her memory lives on through your stories about her. Sending lots of hugs and light for you. You aren't alone!
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My friend, I hope these words bring you some comfort, right now you are are heartbroken by bereavement but death is the great liberator, it brings freedom to the soul, the bird that was in the cage for so long has now had that door opened and is now free! Take comfort in knowing that a reunion between you and her is a certainty when it’s your time to flee the cage, you will see her again !
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Prayers for you and your family. This must a really tough time for you all, hope you can find comfort and solace however you need to. Seems like a beautiful connection you have with your mom, that bond is forever.
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I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️ You are so strong and you bare the unbearable my friend ❤️ your mom did left to give you the realization of your inmejorable strength to continue your journey. She is always there , everywhere ❤️ I love you , it’s ok to grief to cry and all . Just don’t let your mind consume you and feel what is the soul need ❤️❤️❤️ ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🌎we are all with you
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I’m so sorry for your loss. “The only way out is through”. Ive heard the only thing that lessens the pain is time. Take care of yourself and stay strong.
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I’m sorry for your loss. My mother passed from cancer in 2009. DM me anytime, if you want to talk. We’re all here for you. ❤️
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May her memories be ever etched in your thoughts - giving you courage, love, strength, and hope whenever you find yourself drifting apart and when you find yourself alone in this journey called life. Also, in happiness, laughter, and contentment never fading always enveloping you with her warmth.
May her soul rest in peace 🙏
The soul never dies. She is looking over you always because you live in her heart and She in yours.
Take care of yourself. Love and strength to you.
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Hugs. Try to keep her alive by thinking of her when you can. How sad you are speaks of how good her time here on earth was-- for the loss you feel is directly correlated to how much you love her. I'm so sorry for your loss, I can't imagine the pain. One day you will be able to think of her without hurting. Take it day by day.
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I know how that feels and I'm so sorry you are going through this. It is going to feel weird for a while, even with family around. Allow yourself to grieve at your own pace. If you feel you may need grief counselling, that is really OKAY. If you want or need to talk about your mama or how you feel, find me in PM. We are here for you. Hugs x
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Sending good energy💛 lost my pops last year and it’s still one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to deal with. Regardless how you feelin, know that she always right there watching and guiding you everyday. Keep your head up and know that with time, everything gets better.🕊 Peace & love
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She’s not gone forever, she’s resting in Spirit which is our true state. We have so much evidence to support that consciousness goes on after physical death. In time you’ll be with her again. 🤗💖
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I haven’t lost my mother and I know that is an unbearable pain. I don’t even want to think of it as it will bring me to tears and anger I don’t want to feel, but I know will one day. I have lost a close cousin though when I was 17. It’s been 12 years and I still remember the grief. I cried every day for 6 months as she was like a sister to me. Eventually things did get better of course and life moves forward, I remember that the love just transfers in different ways. You remember with love and eventually thinking of them just makes you smile because you had the chance to love them in this life. My cousin had two little boys at the time and I started spending time with them, I saw her in them and it made it much easier to get to watch them grow up. They are 18 and 15 now and I still see her in them, so it’s really amazing sometimes.
I bet you’ll get to see your mom in yourself as you age, if you already don’t. She’ll always be with you ❤️ her love will always be there for you. It does get easier, but it will get harder too. You’ll be okay and time really does heal.
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Sending love ❤❤❤ she will continue to look over you from up above, a mother's love is eternal. time will heal.
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So much love to you and your mum. Keeping you in my thoughts and heart
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Sending you so much love and strength ❤️❤️ I cant imagine what it’s like to lose my mum! Let it all out, and remember she’ll be watching over you. It always gets better
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I am so sorry for your loss sending you so much love and strength to overcome❤
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I’m sorry for your loss. Sending you lots of love, strength, support, and positive energy through this message. Much love and a big bear hug ❤️
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I'm so sorry and I feel for you T.T it will be okay I promise
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I’m so sorry. It’s so hard and unfortunately nothing anyone can say will make it better. Look for her signs, though...she’ll send them. Hang in there.
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I'm sorry for your loss but wish you strength in this time. Watch 'Going Home's by Ram Dass on Netflix if you have a chance. It might help :).
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Love goes out to you dawg I’m tripping real hard and that just made me feel a lot better, her energy is still here man the love ain’t going anywhere
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Omg so awful.. a thousand prayers and thoughts with you. All of us can relate...
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Allow yourself to cry. This is a very sad time, a time for deep reflection. Hold onto this feeling of love and gratitude. I wish you well.
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I'm so sorry to hear that. She's in a better place now. Wishing you and your family all the strength and peace.
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Realy sorry to hear that.. stay strong. My momma took her last breath while I was holding her hand and I considered my self lucky that I could be there for her. Stay strong m8...
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My mom passed away suddenly on the 3rd. We had a complicated relationship. It's still so hard. I am so very sorry for your loss.
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So sorry for your loss, she will always be with you as long as you remeber her. Cherish the time you spent with her and be grateful to have experienced such deep love in this lifetime.
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Just read the book Wild by Cheryl Strayed, a lot about her processing the loss of her mom. You may find comfort in it <3 p="">
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Wish you both the best in the universe. One day you'll notice it doesn't hurt anymore, I can promise you. She's will always be with you❤️
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I am so sorry. I know this pain well. Sending you much strength and peace to your mom. Hugs.
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Check out r/momforaminute Also, know that she is in you - everything in your world is, and that she is always around as you think of her. ❤️
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She is still here always infinite, just not in her body anymore. Feel her all around you. 999 xx
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Someone named Gsnow said the following. Which I'll just copy/paste because I can't type as well as he can:
Alright, here goes. I'm old. What that means is that I've survived (so far) and a lot of people I've known and loved did not. I've lost friends, best friends, acquaintances, co-workers, grandparents, mom, relatives, teachers, mentors, students, neighbors, and a host of other folks. I have no children, and I can't imagine the pain it must be to lose a child. But here's my two cents.
I wish I could say you get used to people dying. I never did. I don't want to. It tears a hole through me whenever somebody I love dies, no matter the circumstances. But I don't want it to "not matter". I don't want it to be something that just passes. My scars are a testament to the love and the relationship that I had for and with that person. And if the scar is deep, so was the love. So be it. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are a testament that I can love deeply and live deeply and be cut, or even gouged, and that I can heal and continue to live and continue to love. And the scar tissue is stronger than the original flesh ever was. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are only ugly to people who can't see.
As for grief, you'll find it comes in waves. When the ship is first wrecked, you're drowning, with wreckage all around you. Everything floating around you reminds you of the beauty and the magnificence of the ship that was, and is no more. And all you can do is float. You find some piece of the wreckage and you hang on for a while. Maybe it's some physical thing. Maybe it's a happy memory or a photograph. Maybe it's a person who is also floating. For a while, all you can do is float. Stay alive.
In the beginning, the waves are 100 feet tall and crash over you without mercy. They come 10 seconds apart and don't even give you time to catch your breath. All you can do is hang on and float. After a while, maybe weeks, maybe months, you'll find the waves are still 100 feet tall, but they come further apart. When they come, they still crash all over you and wipe you out. But in between, you can breathe, you can function. You never know what's going to trigger the grief. It might be a song, a picture, a street intersection, the smell of a cup of coffee. It can be just about anything...and the wave comes crashing. But in between waves, there is life.
Somewhere down the line, and it's different for everybody, you find that the waves are only 80 feet tall. Or 50 feet tall. And while they still come, they come further apart. You can see them coming. An anniversary, a birthday, or Christmas, or landing at O'Hare. You can see it coming, for the most part, and prepare yourself. And when it washes over you, you know that somehow you will, again, come out the other side. Soaking wet, sputtering, still hanging on to some tiny piece of the wreckage, but you'll come out.
Take it from an old guy. The waves never stop coming, and somehow you don't really want them to. But you learn that you'll survive them. And other waves will come. And you'll survive them too. If you're lucky, you'll have lots of scars from lots of loves. And lots of shipwrecks.
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I’m so so sorry for your loss. I can’t even imagine the pain you’re in rn. Sending you so much love and so many prayers. I’m sure she’s looking down at you smiling with a full heart knowing she had a lovely child like you. She’ll follow you wherever you go and will live on as long as you do ❤️
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Everything will be okay. We’re here for you and you’re not alone 💕
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Every day, all over the world, people die and it does not bother me, or at least, not much. It's because I didn't know them, and didn't love them. When you don't love someone, you don't grieve them, because grief is love.
You don't have to stop crying. You don't have to stop loving her. You don't have to ever get over it.
To see that you feel this way, I know in my heart, that you were lucky to have her, and that she felt so lucky to have you in her life, and that she felt such a wonderful love for you. I'm sure that if she could send you a message, it would be something like, "Thank you for being in my life, you made it so much better. Mama will always love you, forever."
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Sending you peace and love from the Netherlands. Be well.
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my mother died when I was 6. i still have moments when I remember she’s truly gone. but one day i took shrooms and i got to talk to her and she said we weren’t far apart. just different dimensions. she mentioned all the ways she’s connected to me. and i chose to focus on that. find ways to connect in this dimension. may you have healing :)
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Whew tonight the first night I’ve slept, I woke up with crippling anxiety, what I was afraid of in the first place. I understand how free my mom is but I swear I will miss her forever idk when I’ll ever look at anything the same ever again and I know I won’t but fuck man I miss you with every cell in my body I can’t wait until I’m not mess so that I can get up dress up and see you again in the mirror but for now I’m just stuck with a scream in my throat I scream for my mommy I miss you so much but I’m happy how free you are, I just wish that you being free and you being with me was the same
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So Infinitive huh mama I guess we just have new language together and new way of like so I’ll hear you through signs and promise to believe what you say.
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Coming back reading everyone’s messages my eyes are low I’m in another moment this is very different I’m proud of all of you who get up or don’t get up this is very different the fact that you sent a like or a comment I wish to have have the courage this is a ride a crazy one I’m scared I’m sad I’m grieving but I promise to wake up tomorrow I will see you all tomorrow goodnight
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I lost my mum when I was 20. She was 41. She had no siblings, and I was an only child with no contact with my father. It was just me, her and my nan.
I’m almost 45 now. I never grieved properly for her and it still affects me 25yrs later. I know I wasn’t the 1st to lose my mum and I wasn’t the youngest person either. I didn’t handle it well and that was mainly because I didn’t have any support. My nan wouldn’t speak about her after she died. None of my friends had lost their mothers. No one knew what to say to me so I would just say I was ok along with the usual stuff like, she’s out of pain now, and it’s for the best etc. I had to arrange her funeral by myself at 20yrs old.
I turned to drink. I wasn’t ok, I was far from ok, but I didn’t want to make anyone feel uncomfortable. No one ever took me aside and said to me, look you’re not ok.
I ended up taking an overdose 5 months later. Obviously I survived, but nothing changed. It was like a taboo subject. Months had passed by now and I still hadn’t talked about her with anyone. The thing is, you have to talk, and you have to cry. You have to do what’s best for you to help you get through the days.
I won’t say it gets easier as that’s bullshit. You just get used to them not being around. It doesn’t matter how long passes by, you will still have your bad days, but it’s normal and don’t let anyone tell you different.
A big thing for me was the lack of support and also having no other family that I could talk to and share memories with. Having someone to talk to whose experiencing the same think as you makes a huge difference as you’re not alone. It just takes time. Never stop talking about the good times. X
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im so sorry for this... ❤️ wishing a fast recovery from grieving.
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